With people getting younger at everything, the expectations that people have in the young generation, are rising. How do you manage?
I find it really hard to live up to these expactations. While getting an education, people expect you to find a boyfriend, possibly have 2 kids before you turn 20, with 25, you must be done with College/Uni/whatever, maybe have a well paid job, and by the time you are 30, you are long expected to be married, with family, and job.
I get some feedback from outside lately, and it is confusing me to no end. My cousin is telling me, since I have hit puberty really, that my biological clock is running *idiot!*. Someone from work told me, I must find a boyfriend soon, or I will be left over.
What is this??? I cannot keep up at all. It seems like I am so far behind already, and I´ll never catch up.
So much pressure from so many sites. Can anyone blame people for fleeing from reality?
Weird entry. Tell me what you feel please! âž¡
8:04 pm on August 5th, 2003
I am only 14 but I don’t fancy boys and am ot likely to in the near future. I don’t expect anything out of you, and you shouldn’t let people’s comments let you down. It is your life, you do what you want with it 😀
8:49 pm on August 5th, 2003
I love your new Emily layout *fantastic*I haven’t been much online lately..I’m so drowsy..let’s make a spinster clique..I’m only 20 and I already hear from some ‘good’ friends that I should look for a boy..ahem..I don’t feel like this..I’d like this feeling to come naturally..but since I’m not lucky enough to experience anything like that and people all around me are in relationships I find myseldf thinbking that there must be something wrong with me..But on the other hand I agree with what Dodo has said here..everyone has a different life..we are not robots, nor are we computer games..so the time will come for us too, honey..at least I hope it will cos the prospect of forever loneliness isn’t at all attractive…
10:34 pm on August 5th, 2003
connie.. maybe you want to fix the desktop cam portal page =P
11:26 pm on August 5th, 2003
the expectations of others are pretty much petty irritations; you don’t have to take them on as your own. after all, it’s the expectations you have of yourself that will keep you up at night worrying. not that you should worry. just be yourself and do what feels right.
1:21 am on August 6th, 2003
While I find that there is the expectation to finish uni etc, marriage and kids is soemthing that is more expected by 30, ratehr than 20.. at least in my little niche
5:12 am on August 6th, 2003
Oh! Have to check, thanks Dodo!
10:28 am on August 6th, 2003
Late late comment, sorry :-s
Thing is, Asian people always have had huge pressure from their family and cultural background. Frankly, I have not even paid a lot off attention to other outside pressures :-s
5:06 pm on August 6th, 2003
I totally agree with you Connie! Although I suppose in the US the standards are a bit different. They deal more with peer pressure, especially at a younger age. In high school, you are expected to receive good grades, play sports, join clubs, do community service, all just to get into college. At the same time, you are also expected to hang out with certain people, dress a certain way, listen to certain music, and act a certain way. I’m sorry to say that I once fell into this trap, but now I do whatever makes me happy, and you should do the same! It makes life so much easier.
12:39 pm on December 31st, 2004
you sure those are the standards you need to live with?! i really don’t care what other people’s expectations for me is. i live for myself. “possibly have 2 kids before you turn 20” – this is a bit extremely.. i haven’t seen that trend yet. people these days are getting kids at a later and later age. personally i don’t expect anything out of anyone. everyone has a different life.
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